Guest Post: Confidence, Not Self-Esteem | + Giveaway

Raising good kids who are happy, confident, and successful in life is every good parent’s

intent. Without formal training or guidance, most parents raise their children in the

hope that they will grow up to be more successful than them. To aid themselves in their

most important job, parents seek out all kinds of advice from one end of the spectrum

to the other.

One study that has failed parents most is The Psychology of Self-Esteem by Dr. Nathaniel

Branden published in 1969. He concluded that “self-esteem” is the single most

important part of one’s persona. Between 1970-2000, 15,000 scholarly articles were

written that support this notion! This ushered in a cultural change that included the rise

of the self-help publishing industry as well as manifold programs designed to help

everyone build their self-esteem and instill the same in their children. Fostering self-

esteem in every possible way was touted as the epitome of “good parenting.”

The “self-esteem revolution” was responsible for soccer coaches who didn’t count goals

but handed trophies out to everyone. Constructive criticism was replaced with broad,

indiscriminate praise while honest competition was frowned upon, and a plethora of

other changes based upon building self-esteem were implemented even though most

didn’t make intuitive sense to many parents. Yet, logically, who could argue with all the

data to support this?

It is no surprise that in 2003 the Association of Psychological Science asked Dr. Roy

Baumeister, proponent and great believer in positive self-esteem, to review the

literature. His conclusion: high self-esteem didn’t improve grades, career advancement,

or achievement. It didn’t affect the usage of alcohol and didn’t reduce violence. He later

stated that this was the biggest disappointment of his career!

It is competence and confidence that help people from the youngest to the oldest

become their best selves. It is empowering and encouraging positive behavior and

accomplishment through trial and error that teaches children how to go through the

process that makes success possible in their lives. They have to attempt a task, fail, and

then try again and again to realize that this is part of life. Parents need to empower their

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After all, no one else cares for your children more than you and with the guidance

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As a society, it is no longer possible to shelter children from the many bad examples

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